Vaginal dryness is common, treatable and worth talking about
Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of perimenopause and menopause, yet it often remains difficult to talk about. That silence can leave people putting up with discomfort, painful sex or urinary symptoms for far longer than they need to.
It is not a failure, and it is not something you simply have to accept as part of getting older.
Why does vaginal dryness happen?
As oestrogen levels change around menopause, tissues in and around the vagina can become thinner, drier and less elastic. You may notice dryness, burning, itching, irritation or pain during sex. Some people also develop urinary symptoms or recurrent urinary tract infections.
Menopause is not the only possible cause of dryness. Medicines, breastfeeding, lack of arousal, certain health conditions and irritating products can also play a part.
What can help?
Vaginal moisturisers
These are designed for regular use inside the vagina to help maintain moisture. They are different from ordinary body moisturisers, which should not be used internally.
Lubricants
Water-based lubricants can reduce friction during sex. If you use condoms, avoid oil-based lubricants because they can damage latex condoms.
Vaginal oestrogen
NICE recommends offering vaginal oestrogen for genitourinary menopause symptoms. It acts locally, with minimal absorption into the bloodstream compared with systemic HRT, and can be used alongside moisturisers or lubricants.
Other prescription options
If vaginal oestrogen is not suitable, not tolerated or does not work well enough, other treatments may be considered with a healthcare professional.
What about product ingredients?
Choose a product made for vaginal or intimate use and stop if it causes irritation. NHS guidance specifically advises avoiding perfumed soaps, washes and douches around the vagina.
Blanket claims that every lubricant containing glycerin or parabens is unsafe are too broad. Formulation, individual sensitivity, condom compatibility and the product’s intended use matter more than a simple banned-ingredient list.
Where lifestyle fits
General hydration, balanced nutrition, physical activity and stress management can support overall wellbeing, but they should not be presented as treatments that restore vaginal oestrogen or reverse vaginal dryness.
Pelvic-floor physiotherapy can be helpful when pelvic-floor pain, tension or sexual pain is part of the picture, but pelvic-floor exercises do not directly replace vaginal moisture.
When to see a GP
NHS guidance recommends seeking medical advice if vaginal dryness has lasted for a few weeks and self-care is not helping, if it is affecting daily life, or if you have unusual discharge or bleeding.
Bleeding after sex, between periods or after menopause should be checked rather than assumed to be caused by dryness.
Intimate-care options at femme
If you are looking for lubricants and intimate skincare, you can explore our Sitre collection. Products can help with comfort and friction, but persistent symptoms still deserve medical advice.
Breaking the silence
The more openly we talk about vaginal dryness, the easier it becomes to seek help before discomfort starts affecting sex, sleep, exercise or everyday confidence.
There are effective options, from non-hormonal moisturisers and lubricants to vaginal oestrogen and other prescribed treatments. You do not have to endure it quietly.
Sources
NHS: Vaginal dryness
NICE: Menopause – genitourinary symptoms







